How to "Score" Priorities

In marriage, is winning everything? We keep score in sports to determine a winner. We keep score between 1 and 10 in our marriage to figure out what’s important. Quick, before adrenaline rises, both rate the marriage issue 1 through 10 and oftentimes, it’s not as important to one of you as believed. If watching the Master’s golf tournament on Easter Sunday is a “9” to me and a “1” to my wife, then we settle in on the couch. But, if taking off my shoes when I come in is a “10” to my wife and a “2” to me, I’m leaving my shoes at the door. This type of scorecard results in a winner, eliminates the argument, and keeps emotions level. In this case, we don't want competition. We want what's best. No doubt my wife and I are competitive, so I like keeping score. However, when we are tied up 8-8 on an issue, then we need to talk because our scorecard can only take us so far. Good Luck!